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Louniversity: Tarot Tutorial – Surrender Spread

On October 23, 2014 In Louniversity, Tarot, The Louniverse


To honour tonights New Moon Eclipse in Scorpio I thought that I would design a new Tarot Spread. The theme is Surrender! Of course.. you know it’s my favourite way of living and the most frequent conversation that I have with my clients.

If you’d like to know more about the New Moon Eclipse then head here to my favourite babes The Astro Twins for their insights. The part that I’m really interested in is the Scorpio factor! I’m a Scorpio as you may know and I consider us to be the deep sea divers of the Zodiac. Scorpio rules death and rebirth and I’ve found that over the years life really swings more in my favour the more that I embrace change and am willing to reinvent myself over and over.

After all, I believe that life is a journey and is a wonderful spiral of evolving cycles. We are here to constantly make like a Phoenix and let go in order to make space for the new. This is what Surrender is all about! – allowing life to flow so that we feel less stress and are more connected to our mind, body and spirit.

So with this in mind, I have created you a Surrender Spread. The aim of this spread is to remind you of and highlight what needs surrendering in your life and what might be holding you back from doing so. From there you can look at what might be awaiting for you in the space you clear as well as the hidden message that your inner soul system is trying to remind you of.

This spread is perfect to do:

  • Each month on the New Moon
  • At any significant point of change
  • When you feel really stuck
  • When you are ready to invite change into your life
  • When you are ready to surrender!

I would also really love to help you with your own spreads, so if you end up using this then please join the conversation on my Facebook page and leave me a comment if you’d like help interpreting yours. I’d love to chat with you! You can also tag me on instagram to your posts and I’ll see you there.



Surrender Spread

What you need: A deck of Tarot cards. You could also try this spread with your Angel cards or other decks that you like. It’s easy to adapt once you get creative and have fun.

This is a Five Card Spread and I have laid out instructions below. The second card is placed over the first and then the remaining three are laid out beyond.

  1. What do I need to let go of / release / surrender?

You probably already have an idea of this question. If so then deal the spread with this in mind and this serves as showing you what the deeper meaning behind the need for surrender is. If you don’t know what it is that you need to let go of then look at this card with fresh eyes and an open heart. This is not a time for self judgment, only kindness and a will to explore your experience.

2.  What is holding me back from doing so? 

This is the card that provides insight into might be blocking you. This is the position that requires the most surrender from you when reading as it’s easy for us at this point to try and talk ourselves out of freeing ourselves from restrictions. This card may bring up your biggest fear or even an external influence that is restricting you.

3.  What will help me to move forward?

This is your action card. The card in this position shows you what will assist you during the forthcoming transition that you seek. Soak this card up and look at it from all angles. This is the card to dive into and let it bring you insights and a new perspective.

       4.  By letting go of what I no longer need, what will I clear space for?

When we surrender and remove things from our life that are no longer serving for us we clear a space for something new! This is one of the concepts that really helps me when I know I need to move forwards. It can be easy for us to think that if we ‘let go’ then we are losing something, when in fact it’s the total opposite. You don’t lose anything but you do free yourself a great big space to receive. This position might give you some insight into what is waiting for you as you step into your best self.

5.  What secret messages does my inner soul system want to remind me of?

This is the bonus card that allows your highest self to step forward and remind you of what you already know. It’s a card of reassurance, compassion and soul knowledge.


❤ Now it’s your turn!

If you try this spread out for yourself then please share with me on my usual social media channels as below. I’ve also started a conversation on my Facebook page here and am happy to help you interpret your Surrender Spreads if you’d like to share.



How to Surrender and allow flow to return to your life – Part 1

On June 30, 2012 In Energy, Mind, Spirit

SurrendersessionEvery time I check my stats I see that many of you are arriving here from typing ‘How to surrender’ into Google. So first up, I love you!

I believe that the moment we step up and ask for help, want to view things differently or even just be willing to try something new we have done half the work already.

I now run a 90 minute Workshop and If you would like to learn with me how to put these ideas into practice in your life then perhaps you might be interested in this Surrender Session? 

In our session I will – Discuss how over controlling your life and situations in it restricts your potential. Teach you new ways of looking at life so that change and the unknown become less overwhelming. Discuss the power we have by staying in the present moment. Explain how worrying about the past and future binds us to a limited outlook. Work with you to create your own way of letting go and create a simple set of mantras that you can start working with that very day. 

Now let’s get to it! 

I believe that i’m co creating my experience with an energy that that is part of me, that surrounds me and that is bigger than me. I like to most frequently refer to it as the Universe, but also it’s God or my inner guide.  It’s my trust in a source of something to have faith in, and often that is just you having a trust in your inner self, your energy and personal power.

Now, when we are blocked in some way, it’s usually because we are IN OUR OWN WAY! I resonate with this idea a lot, sometimes I swear I can see myself looming in front of me.

To allow ourselves to let things loosen a little we need to have a bit of an idea what we are giving it up to. Your faith is your unique thing and sometimes the coolest thing to have faith in is your own journey – we can all get behind that right?

I feel connected to my own feelings and totally trust the Universe has my back but can still struggle often to completely relinquish control.

The Ground Rules

Uncertainty is certain but right now in this tiny second there is no fear and everything is as it should be. Tweet: Uncertainty is certain but right now in this tiny second there is no fear and everything is as it should be - via

To accept flow we need to have an understanding of the present moment. If you’d like some tools to get grounded and present, check out this post!

 What has happened in the past no longer exists. The future, whilst abundant with plans is completely fluid. The only thing we can be sure of is the present moment.

If we are obsessive and controlling we grip onto our life so hard that we stop the natural flow, life is much harder and opportunities less apparent.


This is your challenge word, and our task is – to ‘let go’, we hear it and see it everywhere. We tell ourselves or people tell us a number of things such as – ‘Let go of things’, ‘Let go of control’, ‘Stop obsessing’, ‘Don’t think about that’ and so on.

It sounds so easy.. hey sure let’s just let go, woo, great! Wait WHAT!? but doesn’t the idea of ‘letting go of control’ associate with the opposite which would be being ‘out of control’? this sounds so negative to me, the idea of being out of control, like we have no power over our lives at all, or that we are making ‘crazy’ choices, woah ‘she’s so out of control!’

It’s not like that.

When I think of letting go, it is making a pact with my higher self that I will be open to being guided and take opportunities that are given to me, say yes more often, say no when I need to, be forgiving and forgive myself, it’s working WITH my life and to experience more happiness and less stress.


This is the word that you need, this is the word to replace control. This is the word that is infinitely better than ‘let go’.

I can tell you that ‘I Surrender’ is the most powerful mantra and thought process I have ever used. It is part of my daily practice. I have found an instant shift in many of my thought processes. I also teach this process to all my coaching clients and everyone gives it a resounding YES.

Why controlling thoughts stop us from moving forward 

If we are in our own ‘flow’ and are listening to our intuition, life moves freely, we have less obstacles and our minds are clearer.

When we spend our time trying to control everything in our life it creates a blockage, we become static and removed from our journey and we blindfold our intuition .

Just writing that down rings so true to me, I can think of so many times in the past where I have put so much energy into trying to control aspects of my life and the outcomes have never been what I ‘wanted’ or the experience even been at all positive.

Some examples of how we use controlling thoughts  negatively in our lives -

  • In relationships - How many times have you been having a ‘conversation’ in your head (hello ego mind!) with your friend / partner / current crush / person you haven’t even met yet and you are constructing the situation, what you might say, what they might say back, what might be the outcome and so forth. This is a great example of trying to control relationships and can take up SO much time and energy. When and if this conversation actually happens it’s never as we ‘planned’ anyway, the time we have put into these thoughts was completely pointless
  • Within the ‘what if’ situations - I have written about the ‘what if’ concept before in my post about procrastination. It can also become a controlling thought pattern, we think about a situation, perhaps at work and we start to get anxieties about it and a million ‘what if’s’ suddenly appear and one by one we begin to try and form a type of control for the situation.
  • With our health - It’s a huge subject but the development of eating disorders can be largely down to control, because food is something we can control, it can’t talk back to us, we can always decide what we eat or don’t eat. Surrendering to my health and eating habits has been the most positive thing I have done in years and completely rid me of an eating disorder. I decided that instead of trying to control my weight I was going to instead CHOOSE my health. I used food as a thing to control when I felt like I was ‘out of control’ in other areas of my life and it only had negative consequences.
  • In Love - Spending time obsessing over people who aren’t currently in our lives, obsessing over past lovers, putting restrictions on our idea of love, all of these restrict our ability and flow to let love into our lives. We become blinded by our controlling thoughts and then are unable to see wonderful people and opportunities around us.

There are so many more examples, we are open to trying to inflict negative control patterns in ALL aspects of our lives. I’m sure you can think of ways in which you do it? We even use controlling thoughts to be negative about ourselves which restricts our confidence in achieving our dreams. 

So, why ‘Surrender’? 

When I say ‘I surrender’ my intent is that I am surrendering my anxieties, ego thoughts, obsessions, problems up on a plate, I am surrendering TO allow things to move forward naturally and as they should. I am trusting that there is a flow to my life and that by surrendering my control over things I am making way for positive change and opportunities. I am stepping back into my present moment and not trying to force things into my life.

Surrendering frees me from the negative patterns that my ego mind creates.Tweet: Surrendering frees me from the negative patterns that my ego mind creates - via @louniverse

From now on whenever you are in a wave of anxiety or stressful thinking, when you are planning a conversation three weeks in advance or beating yourself up about yesterday then just say it.


Even if for just one moment this pulls you back into the present and gives you the choice to choose to put your energy onto something more productive. As you practice it becomes more familiar and you need to use it less often because you are always surrendering!

A note on manifesting and visualisation – I have to mention visualising and manifesting here (a practice I fully believe in) The art of manifesting is that we decide what we want and we acknowledge it and then we release it (surrender!) into the Universe and into our energy, ALLOWING it to be. Manifesting is not deciding what we want, acknowledging it and then OBSESSING over it and trying to coerce it into being – See the difference?)

Have the intention

Take the Action


The practice of ‘Surrendering’ 

I am currently using the word in two ways to help me and these are the ideas that I would love you to try.

  • As a simple mantra – I feel that a quick way to stop a negative or obsessive control pattern is to just simple say (aloud or in your thoughts) ‘I surrender’. By saying the words it is creating a simple shift in your thought pattern and allowing you to let go of the obsession and allow the situation to heal in it’s natural flow. I have been using this for the past week and it has completely changed my way of thinking.
  • As part of an affirmation about a situation - Staring the affirmation with ‘I surrender’ apply it to some of your challenges. Create an affirmation that rings true to you, and is purely positive. State the affirmation as if it is already true.

Some affirmations using Surrender 

Extend this mantra by forming your own positive sentences. Shift by shift your thoughts calm down and oh there we go.. flow.

“I surrender this situation to flow as it should”

“Everything is perfect in this moment, I surrender.”

“I surrender my obsessive thoughts about X”

“I surrender my anxieties about relationships and allow love to come into my life”

“I surrender my fears and allow success into my endeavors”

“I surrender my day to the Universe”

“I surrender all negative thoughts about myself”

“I surrender to the flow of the Universe”

“I surrender to my fears and allow love to guide me”

“I surrender my resistance to move forwards”

“I surrender with confidence to my life’s path”

“To allow, I surrender”

“I surrender to sleep and am totally relaxed”

“I surrender my need for approval and I accept myself”

“I surrender to my creative flow”

The reason a surrender practice is so powerful is that you aren’t suddenly spinning out of control and giving up the wheel, instead you are loosening your grip and consequently allowing flow back into your life. This practice of course comes with a little sprinkling of faith but work on this with me.

 Please find me on social media via the links below and let me know how your practice goes! – If you would like to come to one of my Surrender Workshops or have a Surrender session then let me know.