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It’s around this time that I notice my Facebook feeds starts filling up with people saying how awful their year has been and that next year BETTER be good. I never really resonated with the idea of threatening the year ahead, it doesn’t seem like the most proactive or positive way to introduce yourself to something. Imagine if when we met a new person we shook their hand and shouted at them YOU BETTER BE A GOOD FRIEND OR ELSE!
Everything is of value and plenty of peoples years will sting more strongly with sadness or hold challenges greater than other years they remember. So, instead of threatening the time itself, how about we offer compassion to ourselves? Maybe a bit of a pat on the back to say YOU DID IT, you kept walking.
The things that we learn from our most challenging times do not usually present themselves to us in an instant, we have to trust they will appear at some point. For now, there is no beating up of anyone, just an urge to be kind to yourself, rest and when you are ready, be curious for something positive that might just be ahead.
I always have a regular exercise that I do either on NYE or January the 1st to set myself into a positive frame of mind for the coming year. I shared this post last year and wanted to add it it and include some ideas for exercises that you can do to welcome in 2015.
❤ The Exercises ❤
❤ For 2014
It’s often that we sit down and think of all the things we didn’t do, or sit and think of everything we perceive to have gone wrong. Scrap that. The year is yours to nurture, love and celebrate, whatever happened.
- Write down all the positive things you can remember from the year gone by.
It doesn’t matter how small you believe it to be. Anything you did that made you feel good, any achievements, anything and everything positive that comes up for you. It is very important not to use the end of a year as an excuse to call yourself a failure or say that you didn’t achieve something – that is voluntary self punishment and you are too awesome to waste your time on that.
S0 – this list, it’s a gratitude list, for yourself and for the year itself, you might even want to say thank you for some of the challenges that you had, even if you can’t see how they make sense yet – know that they are an important part of your journey.
- Write down everything you love about yourself and the aspects of you that you are grateful for. Try it for a few things you don’t feel so comfortable with.
Write as much as and for as long as you like, this should be an uplifting exercise and you might find that you break through a few blocks in the process!
Be creative, what quirks about yourself have you noticed this year, what oddities or ‘weirdo forever’ parts of yourself have bloomed. If you’ve felt that this year has been a real challenge (or a pain in the ass) then be grateful for the fact that you are still standing.
❤ For 2015
- This is where you manifest for the year ahead – Write down what you would like to see coming in this year.
This is where I would like to give you a little reminder on manifesting. Manifesting is not forcing something into being. Manifesting is setting intentions, taking action and then allowing things to happen in their own natural flow.
Goal setting can sometimes be really restrictive. For example “Lose 10lbs by February’ or ‘be happy’, reek of restricted pressure. So rather than write down very specific things for your year, allow everything to be fluid and expand, focus on what you want to feel and try to bring in less intentions that are of a controlling nature. When you start writing, think via the process below –
Manifestation = Intention + Action + Surrender
Intention – This shows you getting aligned with your plan, think from your highest place of love and health. Craft your ideas only from a positive source. Do not let fear be your root because it is not stable, nothing can grow from there that will serve you the best. To be successful at manifesting we need to have the plan, the vision, ask yourself. What do I really want to achieve here? Focus on the feeling, How will what you write down make you feel? – Take this idea and run free!
Action – This won’t be what you are doing right this moment in your notebook but it will be for the rest of the year – Put your intentions in to place, be practical. Make the steps must be taken for you to successfully proceed on your chosen path. What are the steps that you can take to keep moving? Fear is immobilizing, when you take one step the Universe will push you two more. Do not be afraid, you are designed to evolve.
Surrender – Now this is the important step – and think about this as you write. You make the intentions and then what?… Well you have to SURRENDER. You don’t have to control, if you stare over your life with a controlling eye it’s like placing a jar over a butterfly and wondering why it’s not going anywhere. Everything needs to breathe, including your dreams. The surrender process allows flow and lets things to move as they should. Recognize that the intention and actions are your guide and the surrender is the force that will take them to where they should go.
When you are finished, close your book and leave this be. I have to say I’ve been doing this exercise for the past four years, each year I look back for the first time at the list I wrote in January and have been amazed at how it’s played out. It’s always happened that everything that hasn’t appeared in my life has because it was making a space for something better or was part of an important lesson in my experience.
❤ Bonus exercises
If you want to work a little deeper and let go of some of your fears and disappointments from the past year, try some of these – make sure you go at this with loving intent, you are absolutely NOT allowed to use the word ‘Failure’ ;)
- If you could go back to January and give yourself a piece of positive advice for the coming year what would it be? – Take it for next year.
- Who did you meet this year that made you think about life in a more positive light, made you feel like there was new hope, gave you ideas and feelings that you hadn’t considered before or inspired you in any small way? – Spend more time with them.
- What connections have been toxic for you this year? – make a point to spend more time with those who uplift you this coming year and respect that people will come in and out your life as you age, everyone will bring a message or a lesson. Allow fluidity.
- What negative thoughts about yourself are you going to in this moment CHOOSE to leave behind?
- How could you be kinder to yourself in this new year? Have you thought about your non-negotionables?
- What have you seen repeat for you this year? Write down positive intention to leave behind unhealthy beliefs and actions that no longer serve you as you evolve forwards.
- Forgiveness is a radical act of self love. When you forgive yourself, another, a situation or anything that is causing you pain it is an act of freedom. You deserve to cut those ties.
- Are you ready to allow yourself to experience all that is new? Sometimes we need to allow ourselves to move forwards. Make the intention to allow yourself to experience 2015 with new and fresh eyes.
- I love you! Happy New Year and I’m happy to let you know that your 2015 Tarotscope is ready for instant download now!