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Miracles Now – Do you want to unwind, find more flow and discover your true purpose?

On May 21, 2014 In Books, The Louniverse

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This book is for anyone who wants to create positive change in their life. If you’re stressed out, anxious, fearful, stuck or simply ready to play bigger in your life, this book is for you.

If you have the slightest willingness to feel better, this book is for you.

- Gabrielle Bernstein

❤ Do you want to experience Miracles? – Well then, NOW is as good a time as any!

Miracles Now is the fourth book by Gabrielle Bernstein a straight talking inspirational speaker, Kundalini Yoga Teacher and Self help guru to many. For those of you new to the lady in question: Gabby turned her addictive lifestyle around 8 years ago by praying for a miracle and consequently being guided to being the teacher she is today.

The Spiritual text ‘A Course In Miracles’ describes a miracle as: A shift in perception from fear to love. Sounds good right?

Miracles now consists of 108 Life- Changing Tools for Less Stress, More Flow and Finding Your True Purpose

The exercises are inspired by some of my greatest spiritual teachings. Throughout the book, I offer up spirit-based principles, meditations and practical tools to help readers bust through blocks to live with more ease. I break down each technique Spirit Junkie style—with meditations, assessment questions and step-by-step guidance—while incorporating lessons from the metaphysical text A Course in Miracles and Kundalini yoga. This book is meant for the busy, stressed person who simply wants to feel better fast.

- Gabrielle Bernstein

Gabby wants the book to inspire you to live the lessons and then share and teach them too: The final lesson speaks ‘You are the Guru’ and I believe this is the big message to take home.

With that in mind, each lesson is served up in tweetable form so that you can share, share and share some more. You have 108  ‘Miracle messages’. Combine them with the #miraclesnow tag and the book takes on some awesome social media activation. I love this because it aligns us to the material world. The spiritual and the material are not meant to be separated, we want to bring our awareness down to earth.  This is a book that encourages you to live the ideas that you learn.

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(Gabby on one of our shopping trips at Celestine Eleven)

 A little back story – because I love how the threads of life weave together:  

Back at the end of 2011 my old PR agent for my Lingerie brand put me in touch with her friend Ruby who was writing a feature about new-age spirituality for The Sunday Times. I met up with her for a chat and so she could get some quotes from me (You can see the article here.…. and yes I did send in a photo of me and my cat to the press desk). And you know that Ruby and I became fast friends of course (and meanwhile Gabby and Ruby became friends too) and little did I know that this woman in the article was to be a future friend too. Those threads…

Growing up in a family where I was free to believe what I liked (one of my Uncles refers to my Mum and her three sisters as ‘The Coven’) I managed to avoid being sceptical of my own intuition, because I felt happy with those things I just knew, and I am very grateful for that. Aligned with my stubborn fearlessness I have never devoured hundreds of spiritual texts (Although I admit as a teenager I did carry a miniature version of The Celestine Prophecy everywhere I went!) but I LOVE confirming my own senses and getting excited about how all of us choose to share our journeys. I have always felt we are just in a time of remembering and very often we do that by reaching out when we need help, when we need a shift.

But I did struggle with feeling like a weirdo. Now I realise we are all the weirdos and we are all the teachers, but it’s easy for us to all feel alone, one way or another, some days or all days.

When the article came out I remember reading about Gabby looking at this awesome woman, the same age as me – being cool AND spiritual at the same time, I felt less alone and more connected to my own truths. Phew! I saw Gabby was running a workshop and I on a whim contacted the PR and asked if she could squeeze me in. I soaked up as she spoke about her journey and knew not only was I not alone, none of us are.

I also remember asking the only thing that was bugging me back then and it was how to just kind of get on and get going:

Gabby spoke the famous words of Marianne Williamson to me:

Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure. It is our light, not our darkness that most frightens us. We ask ourselves, Who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, talented, and fabulous? Actually, who are you not to be?

I was shifted back into my skin and knew I could surrender to my work. Fast forward to last December when Gabby got in touch to see if I wanted to come to her workshop in London and we hung out and have been in touch ever since. Webs woven!

❤ So back to the NOW – and to the MIRACLES NOW.

I spoke in a recent post about how the last few months have been a bit turbulent. I was lucky enough to receive a copy of Miracles Now in March I wanted to post this review sooner – in fact right when I clutched the book in my hands and could feel the bright sparks of energy pouring out, but I just had to sit on it, and sit with it – why? Because I needed it!

Gabby will reconnect you to what you already know. I think it’s fantastic for helping you become more trusting with your intuition because I feel there is a certain ‘knowing’ when you read what you turn over – an instant connection to your truth.

The book will speak to you as and when you need it.  A mistake we often make is to sit around waiting and praying for a big shift, not realising that the big shifts happen from the tiny steps we make. We can all find time to read a page in a book right? In this book Gabby gets straight to the point and she gets you. This isn’t about pouring over a text and trying to find a belief or meaning, it’s 108 tools that you can reach for and make a sharp instant shift. They are the tools that she is using to walk her talk and this are ideas you can practice immediately.

I’m a big believer that we should have a morning practice – unique to each of us. When you start off the day by giving yourself space then you open up a spot of breathing room in all aspects of your life. I find that in my most challenging times it is this starting point that becomes the thing that holds me together and keeps me grounded and connected. So what is more perfect than having to hand a wealth of go-to tools to pick you up, shake you out and give you some healing when you most need it?

Everything is covered, there are tools to: help you find your true purpose, manage stress, change habits, cope with negativity and more.

The higher purpose of this book is to contribute to a greater global change. I believe that when more and more people begin to feel better, the positive collective energy supports the energy of the world. I believe that it is our collective energy that can save the world. 

- Gabrielle Bernstein

My favourite tools from the book

Gabby suggests using the book like a Tarot deck, which you know I love! and that is exactly how I use it. I have always loved using books to give me guidance by posing a question so I’ve found this to fit in so well with my routine. Often people ask me how Tarot isn’t just a game of ‘chance’ and I always explain how in 78 cards there are ones that I never turn over for myself, and some that repeat every day. I’ve found this to be the same with MN, I have a few of the messages over and over and probably two thirds I haven’t seen yet – because it’s serving up what I need in the moment.

Of course you can read it like a regular book too – If you are new to some of the ideas then I think a cool way to read it is to do a lesson each day and perhaps write how you feel about it and what it brings up for you. It can be a 108 day Miracle workbook!

 #41 Handle fear in the wake of a terrifying event

I’ve been picking the book up most days but last month there were a couple of times when I dropped to my mat because I was facing some events that scared me, pulled out my oldest fears and made me question everything I knew. It was at this point that I prayed and opened the book to this lesson. I instantly felt reassured by this lesson because it echoed what I knew I should do but at that point where I wasn’t so connected to myself to be able to reach there. A great example of how we all need to remember to ask for help and I’m glad I had the book to reach for.

Gabby suggests three steps for when you feel sidelined by news or an event, and especially when you feel like running to numb out your pain with an external source.

Step 1: Get honest about your fear

Step 2: Breathe through your feelings

Step 3: Be more kind

A perfect set of practice for so many moments – and very useable on a daily basis. I believe that we cannot choose to think differently or work our way through our fears if we don’t introduce ourselves to them first. This was a good reminder for me to sit and show up to what was coming to the surface for me. The of course we have to feel it! – not always easy to sit and feel our most scary moments, but this is how we process. I found myself putting my hand to my heart and just as Gabby says – tuning into my body and seeing where I was carrying the fear.

The being kind. A simple solution to a lot of issues, be more kind, BE MORE KIND. To yourself and others. It’s an amazing way to reclaim some personal power – and it brings peace.

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When I honor my feelings, I find my power in powerless situations. #miraclesnowtweet

#43 I choose to peace instead of this

I LOVE this one. Gabby suggests using this as a mantra every time you feel yourself choosing fear, attack, judgement and separation. She tells us

When you choose love in any way, you’re unconsciously connecting to your higher self, asking for love to reinterpret the situation.

I think this is an amazing tool to use whenever you feel blocked in any way, in fact especially for the really silly things. It’s amazing how easy it is to get angry or pissed off at insignificant things like waiting in the line at the Post Office or when you are stuck in traffic. But, really, is it worth it? Couldn’t your energy be redirected to something more fun. Choose peace instead and notice how quickly you open up your experience to see more of the positive around you.

Miracle Message #43

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#102 When in doubt, play it out

A great one for helping you change your negative habits. Again this is a simple idea that can make a huge change. Gabby suggests playing out the whole story in your head and uses the example of her quitting coffee and how it helped her to play the entire story of what would happen if she had it, right up to the manic feelings and the energy crash the next day.

How about trying this for helping with an addiction or with moments of self sabotage? – play your story out in your head and it might remind you why you don’t want to go there.  I’ve been doing this anytime I’ve come up against an old ‘comfort blanket’ fear. It’s also a great exercise to force you to be present with your habit, hence giving the option to make a more loving choice.

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When in doubt, play it out. #miraclesnow tweet

❤ Be the light

No way I’m not going to share all 108 tools! Seriously go and grab a copy and let me know what you think.

Back in March I was lucky enough to see Gabby speak at the Hay House Ignite weekend. If you ever get the chance to go to a Gabrielle Bernstein event (or a Hay House one in fact!) do it – She is a gifted speaker and I’ve never been in the room and not seen people in floods of tears and laughter – she is certainly the miracle mistress!

Gabby was promoting her book tour and she came with a very simple message for us.

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(Painting by me – Please include credit if sharing)

BE THE LIGHT!

I loved how she spoke about how all we need to do is show up and bring our best energy to every moment. This also reminds us to just get out of our own way, many of our fears exist purely because we are blocking our own flow through fears that are all ego based and to do with us. I used to get nervous about my workshops until I reminded myself that it wasn’t about me, it was about me sharing and teaching. All I need to do is turn up and be the light – ok I think I can all do that, we can all do that.

The next stop for Gabby is that she is leading a brand new Spirit Junkie Masterclass this September in NYC!

Spirit Junkie Masterclass is a one-of-a-kind program that helps teachers, coaches, and healers enrich their own spiritual awareness while guiding them to elevate their brands and become greater leaders in their practice and in the world.

Read more and sign up for a free, 90-minute Google Hangout on May 27 here!

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(Gabby, Ruby and I hanging in London in March.)

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ENERGY – Part 5 – The energy of your words & The importance of a Gratitude Practice

On March 14, 2014 In Energy, Mind

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(A beautiful thank you card I received in January from a client.)

Hey friends!

Let’s talk about the energy of our words, ok? I want you to get connected with what comes out of your mouth in order to get connected to a brighter and more enjoyable experience.

You know and love this series (please see the links to the previous posts at the end of the page) and I’ve talked in the previous parts about how to protect, clear and ground you energy, as well as last time when I discussed our connection (or over connection) to the internet and how it might effect us. In part 3 I mentioned the power of positive thinking and why I like to use mantras so let us extend from there!

❤ How does energy align with our thoughts.

You may have heard about the Law of Attraction? Like attracts like etc? I want to give you a spin on this idea because I find that somewhere along the lines people have become a little afraid of their thoughts being magnetic. I hear so often people worrying that if they have a bad thought then something bad is going to happen to them. So let me help you think about this in a different way.

Energy is something that you tune into.

It is like adjusting your eyesight to see in a brighter way. When you are in a negative mindset it’s not that you are attracting more bad things into your life, it’s that you have tuned into a lower energy and therefore can just see the negative around you more openly and easily. It’s not that good things aren’t there, you just are on the wrong channel!

So of course when we are tuning ourselves in to a lower vibe then what falls out of our mouths or what we write down or what we tell ourselves can very easy be from a less than positive place.

❤ Energy and the words we speak

Use this as a checkpoint to think about what comes out of your mouth.

How do you speak to other people? How do you refer to people when they aren’t present? How  do you speak about yourself?

I’m going to run through a few types of conversation to address the energy of how we talk.

  • Don’t use someones energy as an excuse to speak badly of them – I bring this up as a point in my Energy Workshop. So we know that the space around us holds all of our thoughts and feelings right? Then this means everyone else has this space too. Avoid using phrases like ‘I don’t like *** because they have bad vibes.’ Perhaps that person is going through something difficult, perhaps they are in a place of fear or despair? If you are having a hard time then the energy you give off may not be of the brightest and clearest, and you would, I’m sure like compassion in that situation, right?  Be loving, allow everyone some room to breathe. Allow everyone to be having their own experience. Use your sense of energy to be the person that says ‘Are you ok’. Be the one who doesn’t judge others on their energy.
  • Gossip –  Ok we have all been there. In fact I feel we are only just emerging from a place where talking shit about other people was considered cool. Right? I’m sure you all have friends who seem to thrive on speaking negatively about other people, or maybe you recognise that in yourself. Don’t worry if so. However think about the energy that brings with it. Whenever we speak unkindly about someone else it only comes back to one thing, and that is that we are projecting our own insecurities and fears. This is a very low energy, but in fact the bigger thing is that gossiping requires us to use little to no part of our intelligent brain. Sitting around picking others apart? – You are smarter than that, you are so much smarter than that! Now, when we really stop and think about this it’s not uncommon to suddenly have a freak out and realise that you might have a tonne of friends that you just sit and gossip with. Do you ever leave those conversations feeling in awesome spirits? Unlikely right. Use your intelligence and get smart with your conversation. Spend time with those who uplift and inspire you. I have had people ask me before how they can remove themselves from negative conversations. It’s not always easy, but I believe you have to be unapologetic about being kind. I have no interest in diving into a conversation that involves being cruel about others, and I’m not afraid to say it. Be the person that brings the light back into the conversation.

Spend more time talking about the things that you love rather than the things you hate. See how your experience brightens.tweet

  • A lack mentality –  Do you find that you use the words ‘I can’t’ a lot? This is what is known as a lack mentality. The thing that is negative about this is that it’s a disconnected form of speech, it suggests that you don’t have a say in what is happening in your life. You are the co creator of your experience so think about switching up your words to regain some personal power and up your energy a little. An ‘I can’t’ can very easily become an ‘I am choosing not to.’ Think about how many times you downplay what you have when you speak. It’s a classic with money of course, always saying that we ‘can’t afford’ or ‘are broke’. If you are right on this page then check out Kate Northrups book – ‘Money: A Love story‘. The main problem with a lack mentality is that we start to take it on as the truth and it really can change your viewpoint on yourself and the world to a negative one. So start choosing to describe your experience in a way that has room for expansion. Don’t close yourself in with negative words, it creates tunnel vision and is harder for you to tune into that positive sight.
  • How do you speak about yourself? – Over here in England we are known for being self deprecating, in fact famous for it. It seems that it is built in to us to downplay our talents and positive experiences. I’m going to get real here. It is your job to shout about when you feel good or when you are proud of something. Why? Because with it you haul in a gigantic dose of positive energy, and others need that. You are not here to hide yourself away, you are not here to be in the shadows. You are here to share and teach and love. If you are reading this and find that you feel jealous when others talk about their successes, then know that it is only because in them you see a reflection of your own possible joy. When you are jealous of another, It’s not their story that you want, it’s your own. Be careful not to devalue someone else’s joy. Instead, dive in and celebrate with them because fyi it’s a sneaky short cut to tuning in to more positive opportunities for yourself. When you get to the end of an uplifting sentence about yourself and feel yourself saying ‘But’ – shut it down, instead marinate in the positive that you just shared. Enjoy the brightness, aim to get comfortable with the positive.

Speaking positively is a practice and at first it may not seem so comfortable, in fact it may seem strange and alien. Recognise that that will shift, there is a lot of power in being just willing to try a new way of addressing your world.

❤ How to shift the energy of your words to a better place – A Gratitude Practice.

The quickest way to align your energy to a higher and more positive vibe is to be grateful. I once read that if we only ever said one thing or made one prayer it should be – ‘Thank You’ and I agree with that.

I believe in bookending your days with positive practices. In the morning and in the evening. A gratitude practice is perfect for the evening. It is so often that we lay down in bed and start mulling over the days gone by, start getting anxious about tomorrow or doing everything but relax. So if you don’t already, I’d like you to begin an evening gratitude practice. I’m sure you are familiar with the idea and hopefully already putting it into play. But if not, then here we go –

The idea is that you write a gratitude list, ideally every day, at bedtime is a nice time because it also encourages good thoughts before sleep but you could write in it at any time. Have a small notebook that is just for this (or even use an online diary or app – some are listed below!) so it’s always full of good thoughts and you can re visit it if you need it. It’s one of the first things I get clients to do and what I find is that they return to it often to flick through the pages and boost their spirit.

Write down a list, it doesn’t matter how big or small of things you are thankful for each day.

It might just be things like “I said hello to a stranger and made them smile” or “I had a great conversation with ***” or “I saw an amazing puppy” etc, basically anything positive even if it’s what you deem to be the tiniest thing. Whatever challenge you are going through or however negative you feel, I guarantee there is one thing that you can feel grateful for. Sometimes it really might just be your bed, but it will be there.

What you are doing is forcing yourself to shift to a higher energy and it’s very effective. We often choose, and it is so easy to be in this habit, to focus on the things that we haven’t liked in our day or week and forget all the nice things that happen. How often have you written off a whole week because you had an annoying trip on public transport? Or chosen to talk about the traffic jam you were on or that person that bumped into you in the street. But you also saw the beautiful sunset or the cute dog, didn’t you? By writing down these moments we haul them to the surface and choose to tune in to that brighter place. It also very simply reminds us to be thankful for little wonders and in that space we are more open to seeing synchronicities and miraculous moments.

❤ The Gratitude practice for self love

I spoke about this in a previous post, but add some self love to that gratitude list. Every so often, and especially when you waver on how you feel about your body or mind, be thankful for it. Again, it’s a tricky one. Write a list of things you are grateful for about yourself. Maybe it’s your cute freckles, your smart mind or your awesome hair. Find things and love them. I add ‘I am grateful for my body’ to my list every day, it comes from me often wanting to disconnect from my body through feelings of illness or discomfort. The more I am grateful for it the more it works with me and the better I feel.

❤ The Gratitude practice for guiding you through challenges.

This can be a hard one but It helps me every moment that I feel stuck. Your life is a journey, an experience, an adventure and every moment has purpose to take you to the next step in your story. You know that everything makes sense in retrospect right? Ok, got it. This means that the challenge you are in right now has a purpose, it’s a stepping stone and it will be taking you somewhere. You just have to trust that it is. A gratitude for your challenges can help this. This also really helps you connect to your journey. So if you are in a hard place then write down that you are grateful for the tough moment, because you know it has meaning in the bigger picture.

I am grateful for my challenges.

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This doesn’t need to be something that you worry about getting done, your positive and spiritual practice should never be something that is part of a guilt trip. This should be fun.

❤ You are already halfway there

Even from just reading this post you have connected to being more aware of your thoughts. Check in with my ‘Feeling feelings‘ post if you want to dive a little deeper into connecting your mind and body and getting back to the present moment. Once we acknowledge what we are saying then we have the opportunity to change it.

The best thing? there are no possible bad side effects here. Working with energy can only get you more connected to your journey and your purpose. Considering the energy of your words and thoughts will expand you and open you up to being ready to clear out old habits and make way for a higher vibe. Sounds good right?

Below are some links to some sites and ideas that might help you out from this point onwards.

❤ Some sites, apps and ideas centred around aligning your thoughts and being grateful.

  • 90 Days of no shit talking! – My friend Gabby uses an app called Streak that tracks your progress with whatever you are working on or giving up (I’m currently using it as a dedication to my morning stretching practice). The other day she checked in and realised that she had found herself shit talking and didn’t like how it made her feel and has started a ‘No Shit Talk’ 90 day practice. I love this, purely because just be setting this idea she knows that she will instantly become more aware of the words that come out of her mouth. This is all we need to be able to change our talking habits, to recognise when we don’t connect in a positive way to what we are saying.
  • Gala Darling – Things I Love Thursday – My friend Gala has been running this post since she started her blog many many moons ago. It’s a wonderful and extraordinarily simple way to get in that gratitude! I love how Gala writes everything that has made her smile or touched her heart, whether it’s a movie, a spoon of peanut butter or a walk with her husband. Many bloggers make similar style posts and I can bet it’s one part of their week that brings them back down to earth.
  • The Gratitude Journals – A site created by a lovely girl called Emily who contacted me recently. This site is in a tumblr format enabling you to submit your own gratitude entry as well as share and enjoy others. It’s amazing what a lift of high vibe energy you can get just from reading what others are grateful for, don’t you agree?
  • Happy Rambles – I’ve been using this since last summer. It’s an online diary with a twist. You set it up to email you at a time of your choosing (I have every day at 8pm) and you receive an email entitled “What are you grateful for?”. All you do is reply to the email, including photos if you wish and hit send. Your lists are saved like journal entries on the site and you can go back and read through.
  • Gratitude Journal iPhone app – Again if you prefer your journal to be online this is a great phone app where you can write that list and upload those photos!
  • I wrote you this prayer to say at the start of each day to remind you to tune into that higher energy and speak from a place that will enlighten and uplift your mind, body and spirit.Energy-wordsprayer

NEW Energy Awareness Workshop!

This is such an important and enjoyable subject for me to speak about and I have now started running a 90 minute workshop. The workshop can be taken as part of a group or one on one.

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PLEASE NOTE! – This article is part of a series:

Part 1 – How to protect your energy
Part 2 – How to clean and clear your energy
Part 3 – How to ground your energy
Part 4 – Our lives online and a scattering of self
Part 5 – The energy of your words and the importance of a gratitude practice
Part 6 – How to look after your energy while travelling

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