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Your End of Year Exercises To Welcome in 2015

On December 30, 2014 In Mind

 

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(Image credit Jessica MacCormick)

It’s around this time that I notice my Facebook feeds starts filling up with people saying how awful their year has been and that next year BETTER be good. I never really resonated with the idea of threatening the year ahead, it doesn’t seem like the most proactive or positive way to introduce yourself to something. Imagine if when we met a new person we shook their hand and shouted at them YOU BETTER BE A GOOD FRIEND OR ELSE!

Everything is of value and plenty of peoples years will sting more strongly with sadness or hold challenges greater than other years they remember. So, instead of threatening the time itself, how about we offer compassion to ourselves? Maybe a bit of a pat on the back to say YOU DID IT, you kept walking.

The things that we learn from our most challenging times do not usually present themselves to us in an instant, we have to trust they will appear at some point. For now, there is no beating up of anyone, just an urge to be kind to yourself, rest and when you are ready, be curious for something positive that might just be ahead.

I always have a regular exercise that I do either on NYE or January the 1st to set myself into a positive frame of mind for the coming year. I shared this post last year and wanted to add it it and include some ideas for exercises that you can do to welcome in 2015.

❤ The Exercises 

❤ For 2014

It’s often that we sit down and think of all the things we didn’t do, or sit and think of everything we perceive to have gone wrong. Scrap that. The year is yours to nurture, love and celebrate, whatever happened.

  • Write down all the positive things you can remember from the year gone by.

It doesn’t matter how small you believe it to be. Anything you did that made you feel good, any achievements, anything and everything positive that comes up for you. It is very important not to use the end of a year as an excuse to call yourself a failure or say that you didn’t achieve something – that is voluntary self punishment and you are too awesome to waste your time on that.

S0 – this list, it’s a gratitude list, for yourself and for the year itself, you might even want to say thank you for some of the challenges that you had, even if you can’t see how they make sense yet – know that they are an important part of your journey.

  • Write down everything you love about yourself and the aspects of you that you are grateful for. Try it for a few things you don’t feel so comfortable with.

Write as much as and for as long as you like, this should be an uplifting exercise and you might find that you break through a few blocks in the process!

Be creative, what quirks about yourself have you noticed this year, what oddities or ‘weirdo forever’ parts of yourself have bloomed. If you’ve felt that this year has been a real challenge (or a pain in the ass) then be grateful for the fact that you are still standing.

❤ For 2015

  • This is where you manifest for the year ahead – Write down what you would like to see coming in this year.

This is where I would like to give you a little reminder on manifesting. Manifesting is not forcing something into being. Manifesting is setting intentions, taking action and then allowing things to happen in their own natural flow.

Goal setting can sometimes be really restrictive. For example “Lose 10lbs by February’ or ‘be happy’, reek of restricted pressure. So rather than write down very specific things for your year, allow everything to be fluid and expand, focus on what you want to feel and try to bring in less intentions that are of a controlling nature. When you start writing, think via the process below –

Manifestation = Intention + Action + Surrender

Intention – This shows you getting aligned with your plan, think from your highest place of love and health. Craft your ideas only from a positive source. Do not let fear be your root because it is not stable, nothing can grow from there that will serve you the best. To be successful at manifesting we need to have the plan, the vision, ask yourself. What do I really want to achieve here? Focus on the feeling, How will what you write down make you feel? – Take this idea and run free! 

Action – This won’t be what you are doing right this moment in your notebook but it will be for the rest of the year – Put your intentions in to place, be practical. Make the steps must be taken for you to successfully proceed on your chosen path. What are the steps that you can take to keep moving? Fear is immobilizing, when you take one step the Universe will push you two more. Do not be afraid, you are designed to evolve.

Surrender – Now this is the important step – and think about this as you write. You make the intentions and then what?… Well you have to SURRENDER. You don’t have to control, if you stare over your life with a controlling eye it’s like placing a jar over a butterfly and wondering why it’s not going anywhere. Everything needs to breathe, including your dreams. The surrender process allows flow and lets things to move as they should. Recognize that the intention and actions are your guide and the surrender is the force that will take them to where they should go.

When you are finished, close your book and leave this be. I have to say I’ve been doing this exercise for the past four years, each year I look back for the first time at the list I wrote in January and have been amazed at how it’s played out. It’s always happened that everything that hasn’t appeared in my life has because it was making a space for something better or was part of an important lesson in my experience.

❤ Bonus exercises

If you want to work a little deeper and let go of some of your fears and disappointments from the past year, try some of these – make sure you go at this with loving intent, you are absolutely NOT allowed to use the word ‘Failure’ ;)

  • If you could go back to January and give yourself a piece of positive advice for the coming year what would it be? – Take it for next year.
  • Who did you meet this year that made you think about life in a more positive light, made you feel like there was new hope, gave you ideas and feelings that you hadn’t considered before or inspired you in any small way? – Spend more time with them.
  • What connections have been toxic for you this year? – make a point to spend more time with those who uplift you this coming year and respect that people will come in and out your life as you age, everyone will bring a message or a lesson. Allow fluidity.
  • What negative thoughts about yourself are you going to in this moment CHOOSE to leave behind?
  • How could you be kinder to yourself in this new year? Have you thought about your non-negotionables?
  • What have you seen repeat for you this year? Write down positive intention to leave behind unhealthy beliefs and actions that no longer serve you as you evolve forwards.
  • Forgiveness is a radical act of self love. When you forgive yourself, another, a situation or anything that is causing you pain it is an act of freedom. You deserve to cut those ties.
  • Are you ready to allow yourself to experience all that is new? Sometimes we need to allow ourselves to move forwards. Make the intention to allow yourself to experience 2015 with new and fresh eyes.
  • I love you! Happy New Year and I’m happy to let you know that your 2015 Tarotscope is ready for instant download now!

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Miracles Now – Do you want to unwind, find more flow and discover your true purpose?

On May 21, 2014 In Books, The Louniverse

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This book is for anyone who wants to create positive change in their life. If you’re stressed out, anxious, fearful, stuck or simply ready to play bigger in your life, this book is for you.

If you have the slightest willingness to feel better, this book is for you.

- Gabrielle Bernstein

❤ Do you want to experience Miracles? – Well then, NOW is as good a time as any!

Miracles Now is the fourth book by Gabrielle Bernstein a straight talking inspirational speaker, Kundalini Yoga Teacher and Self help guru to many. For those of you new to the lady in question: Gabby turned her addictive lifestyle around 8 years ago by praying for a miracle and consequently being guided to being the teacher she is today.

The Spiritual text ‘A Course In Miracles’ describes a miracle as: A shift in perception from fear to love. Sounds good right?

Miracles now consists of 108 Life- Changing Tools for Less Stress, More Flow and Finding Your True Purpose

The exercises are inspired by some of my greatest spiritual teachings. Throughout the book, I offer up spirit-based principles, meditations and practical tools to help readers bust through blocks to live with more ease. I break down each technique Spirit Junkie style—with meditations, assessment questions and step-by-step guidance—while incorporating lessons from the metaphysical text A Course in Miracles and Kundalini yoga. This book is meant for the busy, stressed person who simply wants to feel better fast.

- Gabrielle Bernstein

Gabby wants the book to inspire you to live the lessons and then share and teach them too: The final lesson speaks ‘You are the Guru’ and I believe this is the big message to take home.

With that in mind, each lesson is served up in tweetable form so that you can share, share and share some more. You have 108  ‘Miracle messages’. Combine them with the #miraclesnow tag and the book takes on some awesome social media activation. I love this because it aligns us to the material world. The spiritual and the material are not meant to be separated, we want to bring our awareness down to earth.  This is a book that encourages you to live the ideas that you learn.

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(Gabby on one of our shopping trips at Celestine Eleven)

 A little back story – because I love how the threads of life weave together:  

Back at the end of 2011 my old PR agent for my Lingerie brand put me in touch with her friend Ruby who was writing a feature about new-age spirituality for The Sunday Times. I met up with her for a chat and so she could get some quotes from me (You can see the article here.…. and yes I did send in a photo of me and my cat to the press desk). And you know that Ruby and I became fast friends of course (and meanwhile Gabby and Ruby became friends too) and little did I know that this woman in the article was to be a future friend too. Those threads…

Growing up in a family where I was free to believe what I liked (one of my Uncles refers to my Mum and her three sisters as ‘The Coven’) I managed to avoid being sceptical of my own intuition, because I felt happy with those things I just knew, and I am very grateful for that. Aligned with my stubborn fearlessness I have never devoured hundreds of spiritual texts (Although I admit as a teenager I did carry a miniature version of The Celestine Prophecy everywhere I went!) but I LOVE confirming my own senses and getting excited about how all of us choose to share our journeys. I have always felt we are just in a time of remembering and very often we do that by reaching out when we need help, when we need a shift.

But I did struggle with feeling like a weirdo. Now I realise we are all the weirdos and we are all the teachers, but it’s easy for us to all feel alone, one way or another, some days or all days.

When the article came out I remember reading about Gabby looking at this awesome woman, the same age as me – being cool AND spiritual at the same time, I felt less alone and more connected to my own truths. Phew! I saw Gabby was running a workshop and I on a whim contacted the PR and asked if she could squeeze me in. I soaked up as she spoke about her journey and knew not only was I not alone, none of us are.

I also remember asking the only thing that was bugging me back then and it was how to just kind of get on and get going:

Gabby spoke the famous words of Marianne Williamson to me:

Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure. It is our light, not our darkness that most frightens us. We ask ourselves, Who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, talented, and fabulous? Actually, who are you not to be?

I was shifted back into my skin and knew I could surrender to my work. Fast forward to last December when Gabby got in touch to see if I wanted to come to her workshop in London and we hung out and have been in touch ever since. Webs woven!

❤ So back to the NOW – and to the MIRACLES NOW.

I spoke in a recent post about how the last few months have been a bit turbulent. I was lucky enough to receive a copy of Miracles Now in March I wanted to post this review sooner – in fact right when I clutched the book in my hands and could feel the bright sparks of energy pouring out, but I just had to sit on it, and sit with it – why? Because I needed it!

Gabby will reconnect you to what you already know. I think it’s fantastic for helping you become more trusting with your intuition because I feel there is a certain ‘knowing’ when you read what you turn over – an instant connection to your truth.

The book will speak to you as and when you need it.  A mistake we often make is to sit around waiting and praying for a big shift, not realising that the big shifts happen from the tiny steps we make. We can all find time to read a page in a book right? In this book Gabby gets straight to the point and she gets you. This isn’t about pouring over a text and trying to find a belief or meaning, it’s 108 tools that you can reach for and make a sharp instant shift. They are the tools that she is using to walk her talk and this are ideas you can practice immediately.

I’m a big believer that we should have a morning practice – unique to each of us. When you start off the day by giving yourself space then you open up a spot of breathing room in all aspects of your life. I find that in my most challenging times it is this starting point that becomes the thing that holds me together and keeps me grounded and connected. So what is more perfect than having to hand a wealth of go-to tools to pick you up, shake you out and give you some healing when you most need it?

Everything is covered, there are tools to: help you find your true purpose, manage stress, change habits, cope with negativity and more.

The higher purpose of this book is to contribute to a greater global change. I believe that when more and more people begin to feel better, the positive collective energy supports the energy of the world. I believe that it is our collective energy that can save the world. 

- Gabrielle Bernstein

My favourite tools from the book

Gabby suggests using the book like a Tarot deck, which you know I love! and that is exactly how I use it. I have always loved using books to give me guidance by posing a question so I’ve found this to fit in so well with my routine. Often people ask me how Tarot isn’t just a game of ‘chance’ and I always explain how in 78 cards there are ones that I never turn over for myself, and some that repeat every day. I’ve found this to be the same with MN, I have a few of the messages over and over and probably two thirds I haven’t seen yet – because it’s serving up what I need in the moment.

Of course you can read it like a regular book too – If you are new to some of the ideas then I think a cool way to read it is to do a lesson each day and perhaps write how you feel about it and what it brings up for you. It can be a 108 day Miracle workbook!

 #41 Handle fear in the wake of a terrifying event

I’ve been picking the book up most days but last month there were a couple of times when I dropped to my mat because I was facing some events that scared me, pulled out my oldest fears and made me question everything I knew. It was at this point that I prayed and opened the book to this lesson. I instantly felt reassured by this lesson because it echoed what I knew I should do but at that point where I wasn’t so connected to myself to be able to reach there. A great example of how we all need to remember to ask for help and I’m glad I had the book to reach for.

Gabby suggests three steps for when you feel sidelined by news or an event, and especially when you feel like running to numb out your pain with an external source.

Step 1: Get honest about your fear

Step 2: Breathe through your feelings

Step 3: Be more kind

A perfect set of practice for so many moments – and very useable on a daily basis. I believe that we cannot choose to think differently or work our way through our fears if we don’t introduce ourselves to them first. This was a good reminder for me to sit and show up to what was coming to the surface for me. The of course we have to feel it! – not always easy to sit and feel our most scary moments, but this is how we process. I found myself putting my hand to my heart and just as Gabby says – tuning into my body and seeing where I was carrying the fear.

The being kind. A simple solution to a lot of issues, be more kind, BE MORE KIND. To yourself and others. It’s an amazing way to reclaim some personal power – and it brings peace.

Miracle Message #41

When I honor my feelings, I find my power in powerless situations. #miraclesnowtweet

#43 I choose to peace instead of this

I LOVE this one. Gabby suggests using this as a mantra every time you feel yourself choosing fear, attack, judgement and separation. She tells us

When you choose love in any way, you’re unconsciously connecting to your higher self, asking for love to reinterpret the situation.

I think this is an amazing tool to use whenever you feel blocked in any way, in fact especially for the really silly things. It’s amazing how easy it is to get angry or pissed off at insignificant things like waiting in the line at the Post Office or when you are stuck in traffic. But, really, is it worth it? Couldn’t your energy be redirected to something more fun. Choose peace instead and notice how quickly you open up your experience to see more of the positive around you.

Miracle Message #43

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#102 When in doubt, play it out

A great one for helping you change your negative habits. Again this is a simple idea that can make a huge change. Gabby suggests playing out the whole story in your head and uses the example of her quitting coffee and how it helped her to play the entire story of what would happen if she had it, right up to the manic feelings and the energy crash the next day.

How about trying this for helping with an addiction or with moments of self sabotage? – play your story out in your head and it might remind you why you don’t want to go there.  I’ve been doing this anytime I’ve come up against an old ‘comfort blanket’ fear. It’s also a great exercise to force you to be present with your habit, hence giving the option to make a more loving choice.

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When in doubt, play it out. #miraclesnow tweet

❤ Be the light

No way I’m not going to share all 108 tools! Seriously go and grab a copy and let me know what you think.

Back in March I was lucky enough to see Gabby speak at the Hay House Ignite weekend. If you ever get the chance to go to a Gabrielle Bernstein event (or a Hay House one in fact!) do it – She is a gifted speaker and I’ve never been in the room and not seen people in floods of tears and laughter – she is certainly the miracle mistress!

Gabby was promoting her book tour and she came with a very simple message for us.

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(Painting by me – Please include credit if sharing)

BE THE LIGHT!

I loved how she spoke about how all we need to do is show up and bring our best energy to every moment. This also reminds us to just get out of our own way, many of our fears exist purely because we are blocking our own flow through fears that are all ego based and to do with us. I used to get nervous about my workshops until I reminded myself that it wasn’t about me, it was about me sharing and teaching. All I need to do is turn up and be the light – ok I think I can all do that, we can all do that.

The next stop for Gabby is that she is leading a brand new Spirit Junkie Masterclass this September in NYC!

Spirit Junkie Masterclass is a one-of-a-kind program that helps teachers, coaches, and healers enrich their own spiritual awareness while guiding them to elevate their brands and become greater leaders in their practice and in the world.

Read more and sign up for a free, 90-minute Google Hangout on May 27 here!

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(Gabby, Ruby and I hanging in London in March.)

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