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ENERGY – Part 4 – Our lives online and a scattering of self.

On June 14, 2013 In Energy

I felt that it was time for another article in this series, please read parts one, two and three if you are new here! The link to part five is below.

So, Part 4, otherwise known as..

Hey guys let’s talk about our energy in relation to social media!

In my Coaching sessions one of the things I help clients with is to teach them how to remember the importance of the present moment and that by being mindful of thoughts and behaviour is the first step to being able to change negative thoughts and unhealthy patterns.

As a follow up to the last post, when we are outside the present moment we are very energetically ungrounded. A perfect example is when we feel anxious, one of the reasons we feel so disconnected is because we have flung ourselves to the past or the future with our worry and we are not present.

How does this relate to the internet?

Firstly a disclaimer, I love the internet and all of it’s magic. I read articles, listen to music, browse images and use facebook, twitter  and instagram for work and for fun. But, most of the time whilst I think the internet is brilliant I feel lucky enough to have grown up in a social networking free time where the only way you could be reminded of all the laughs you weren’t having or know what everyone was eating for dinner was if they called you on the house phone or you bumped into them in the physical world.

I feel like my youth was full of the present moment, memories were written down in my diary and I have just a few handfuls of photos to show for it, maybe my teenage years were so full of feelings were because I was out there really feeling them.

A couple of months ago my self confidence had dipped and I felt off balance. I’m now very familiar with my holistic energy so It was easy for me to gather myself back together but at the same time I started to think about Social Media and how it links in with all the things that I teach about managing our energy.

I also know that I can often use the internet unproductively. I use that term because there are of course many degrees, I’m sitting here right now using it and feeling pretty darn productive, I will finish writing and tweet and send this article out to friends and followers, but I also could easily have three hours disappear from roaming around with no purpose. The effect of that could be me feeling energetically depleted as well as feeling annoyed at myself for wasting time. I know you know what I mean! (Ps this is great)

❤ Social media and a Scattering of self.

When we look at social media we experience what I call an ‘energetic scattering of self’. In one blink of an eye we are present in a break up, a holiday, a moan, a new baby, a party we are not at and so forth.

It becomes increasingly difficult for us to be content in our own present moments because we are too busy being in everyone else’s.

There is now a term called FOMO – Fear of missing out. I remember ye ole days of Fomo, oh god I’m 14 and I’m not allowed to go to the party that EVERYONE IS GOING TO. What happened then though was that I just wrote in my diary and then fell asleep. Now the development of this into a problem for us is that we can watch our ‘Fomo’ play out on Facebook, Twitter, Instagram, Vine, Snapchat.. etc into oblivion.

I recently said to a friend that I don’t really ‘suffer from fomo’, one of many reasons is because I am so content in my own company that I’m rarely wishing I was elsewhere and she exclaimed how it was sometimes almost crippling for her. FOMO – A modern day disease?

❤ How does this fit in with our energy?

In the same way that we can pick up energy from people physically we can also do it just from reading. Have you ever sat and felt so drained from an onslaught of negative internet activity? Or felt a rush of anxiety because you saw a photo online that made you reach for a variety of assumptions? So remember that sitting online doesn’t count as relaxation, in fact quite the opposite. I have had countless clients and friends come to me with anxieties that just wouldn’t exist without their social media participation hence why this is a new type of way of experiencing stress in the modern world.

Now this isn’t a post to say we should all stop using social media it is more to highlight ways to be mindful of our holistic health in relation to it.

This scattering of self IS energetic. We are becoming ungrounded from our selves when we sit ‘scrolling’. We know that this feeling of being ungrounded is similar to feeling anxious, and tired and disconnected. If we aren’t grounded then we aren’t present and able to connect fully with our own lives and physical and mental health.

❤ Some negative effects from a Social media and phone addiction and how to work with them.

  • Using it as a tool to moan, complain, judge and be unkind to others or yourself – There is no positive effect on your energy within those things. Use the Internet for all its inspiration and for bringing joy to others, rather than sucking it out. If we think about this scattering, then also consider the energy you put out into the world when you type a status.
  • Lack of enjoyment in our own lives from a false perception that ‘everyone is having more fun’ than us – The word perception is important here as ultimately everything is about that and when we perceive things in a negative way we are choosing a fear based illusion rather than focusing on possible positive elements right in front of us.
  • Trouble concentrating and a short attention span – This is a new online related problem because sitting and scrolling on our phones or on our computers has become so normal that actually stopping and noticing the present becomes less common. Take. a. breath. Notice when you are mindlessly scrolling or have sat and been ‘lurking’ on someones profile for minute on minute. There are new types of anxiety forming to do with ‘likes and comments’ and it will only serve to deplete your precious energy. The time is now.
  • Negative perceptions building up to do with our appearance or personality – Based on what we perceive from photos/statuses of other people it can be common to feel a lack in self confidence (or should that be selfie confidence). Again remember perception is not reality. As cliche as it can sound, you are the only you and choose to celebrate yourself rather than someone else.
  • Forming untrue opinions on  friends and strangers based on their online presence – It can be very common to sit and look at someone ‘online’ and then make judgements about them as well as starting to be lazy socially because we ‘think’ we know everything that everyone has been doing and thinking. I have a very strict rule on not assuming anything from what I read from friends. I would rather learn it from speaking to them and participating in life. By judging others we are only judging ourselves, there is a mirror moment within everything and you could be placing your energy more positively elsewhere.
  • The ability to obsess over what people are doing- This is particularly debilitating when it comes to romantic relationships as new types of jealousy and anxiety form around our interactions from this ability to perceive what we think others are doing. Try to keep building honesty within relationships, you don’t need to ‘assume’ something when you have trust. Also know that nothing positive comes from anxiety based around a perception, it won’t move you forwards but it will hold you back.
  • Checking what is going on online during sleeptime – (This is definitely the one I do) Before you go to sleep, put your phone on silent / on airplane mode. Welcome to a better nights sleep!

Have you every experienced any of the above? I am sure you can think of more too!

❤ Energy exercises.

If you notice this ‘scattering of self’ try applying the energy clearing and grounding exercises I taught you in parts two and three. They will work in the same way and are especially good to do before bed to ease the mind up to sleep.

❤ My social media ‘break up’

I knew I had to walk my talk and thought I would take a social media break as an experiment to test out this ‘scattering of self’. I felt it would help to get super grounded and up my energy. I didn’t look at or post on my social media feeds for almost two weeks.

It was so easy and my mind felt the most clear and calm that it had done for months.

I told people I had done this a few weeks later and I found people responded in both directions, either with ‘I wish I could do that’ or they thought I was acting insane.  I joked that in that time I had a lot less friends and you get told off for not going to birthday parties or knowing someone’s news because they only used Facebook for the information rather than actually connection on the phone or even via email.

I have always been very strict on taking in information from my friends from online, I never want to think that I know something or not enjoy my catch up conversations with friends and this exercise really reminded me of that.

In the last month I have made a few new connections and at the forefront of my mind has been that I just don’t want to know anything except what we share in person or from texting or emailing. I have no interest in ‘stalking’ someone online to learn things about them because I want to share one on one. I don’t want people to think they ‘know’ me from what they see online so it has to swing both ways. I don’t want to foresee a paranoia or a problem or layer an opinion from someone else onto them.

I want to endeavor to always be present and make positive perceptions, and for that to be my mirror.

NEW Energy Awareness Workshop!

This is such an important and enjoyable subject for me to speak about and I have now started running a 90 minute workshop. The workshop can be taken as part of a group or one on one.

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PLEASE NOTE! – This article is part of a series:

Part 1 – How to protect your energy
Part 2 – How to clean and clear your energy
Part 3 – How to ground your energy
Part 4 – Our lives online and a scattering of self
Part 5 – The energy of your words and the importance of a gratitude practice
Part 6 – How to look after your energy while travelling

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ENERGY – Part 3 – How to ground your energy

On July 11, 2012 In Body, Energy, Mind, Spirit

I know I’m putting this as part three (please see the links to the other parts at the end of this post) but It’s probably the most important thing to practice once you are aware of your energy and have become accustomed to protecting it and maybe also noticing when you haven’t?

I also want to say that all of these energy posts are very beneficial even from a totally non spiritual perspective, energy is what we are made of, so just remember that even just the mood of another person is enough to change your mood. It’s all part of considering ourselves holistically and doing our best to look after our health.

Ok so what does being ‘grounded’ mean?

When we are fully grounded we are totally in the present moment, it means we are connected to our feelings and our bodies. We feel focused and energised. Grounding is feeling connected to the earth element, so the feeling of being literally ‘on the ground’.

To illustrate this It might be easier to give some examples of what feeling ‘ungrounded’ could be like.

How might I feel if I am ungrounded?

  • Dizzy
  • Feeling a little ‘up in the air’ and not quite ‘with it’
  • Feeling very tired and scattered and emotional.
  • Feeling very thought orientated and having a head full of stresses and worries.
  • A general feeling of being a little disconnected.
  • Anxious.

NB: Yes, all of the above can be associated with other illnesses physical and mental so please if you are for instance dizzy after a head injury go and see your doctor.

How and why could I be ungrounded?

When we are totally in balance we should feel well. Any small thing emotionally, mentally, physically, spiritually could cause us to go slightly out of balance and feel not our very best. I know the exact feeling of not being grounded so am very aware of it. As you become more familiar with your energy and living in a holistic way then you will really know when your mood or ill ease is because of your energy.

Things that can leave us feeling ungrounded -

  • Being in any environment where we are amongst a lot of other people can leave us feeling ungrounded. A stressful day at the office and traveling on a packed train is a perfect example. This is from taking on a lot of other peoples energies and the exercises here will help you prevent this. This is even more significant if you are working along side very negative people or if you are in conflict with someone around you.
  • Spending too much time over thinking, obsessing (gasp, controlling!) – If being grounded is about being ‘earthy’ then when we are using a lot of mental energy we are in the ‘air’ element, up in the sky with our thoughts. We always need a perfect balance so too much air then we might be not as connected to our earth element as we should be.
  • The weather – I personally feel that I am very affected by the change in weather, when it is thundery I get headaches and more recently I’ve noticed with the strange muggy and rainy ‘Summer’ in London I have been feeling very ungrounded, maybe my head is literally in those rainclouds. I think we all understand that the weather has an effect on our moods, the energy of the sunshine can make us feel giddy and positive, so it makes sense that different patterns in the climate can have an influence on us also.
  • Traveling – Slipping through time zones makes me feel SO ungrounded. I think it’s a combination of you being in a small place with a lot of people for often hours on end, eg a long flight, coupled with a disruption to a regular sleeping routine. I mean how could you possibly feel balanced! See all my tips for Energy Care when travelling here.
  • Stress and anxiety – As someone who suffered extreme panic attacks and anxiety in the past I would say that when you are feeling anxious or in the throws of a panic attack then you are extremely ungrounded, again because your balance is off, and you are very much focused on the situation itself, so of course not feeling well.
  • Spiritual and Psychic work – Any type of work where we are connecting to spirit or even when we are just meditating it requires us to ground ourselves before and after. This is an important practice so we are always equally connected to the earth and the ether.
  • Sugar and caffeine – We all know that feeling of a sugar or caffeine high, and when you have too much in your system it can bring on anxiety and feeling quite ‘out of yourself.
  • Working as a therapist – When you work as a therapist of any sort you spend your days helping people with their illnesses and problems. It is very important as a therapist to look after your energy and clear it after each client. This was even taught as an important thing to do when I was training as a Massage Therapist. It is very common to feel completely drained after a day of working with clients, but with using all these techniques you should be on top of it.

Black Tourmaline that I carry in my pocket when I feel the need for extra grounding.

❤ Grounding Exercises

Physical exercises to help you feel grounded.

  • Exercise. Going to the gym or for a run is great for grounding, physical exercise in general is very earth oriented. I’ve been frequenting the gym in the early morning recently and it’s definitely making me feel more connected. Yoga will also be positive as a grounding exercise and energy exercises are often taught in class. Any exercise will pull you back down into yourself so get creative!.. and of course the health benefits are huge.
  • Stamping your feet on the ground, simple, stomp stomp.
  • Eating earthy foods – Root vegetables and food that you could grow (as opposed to a lot of processed foods that can be ungrounding) can often help you feel more in your body.
  • Spending time outside and in nature. Taking a walk in the park or doing some gardening, both are very ‘earthy’ activities.
  • Holding a crystal that is good for grounding. Smoky Quartz or Black Tourmaline are good examples. I often carry one in my pocket if I feel a little light headed.
  • Massaging you palms and soles of your feet. – this is a quite way to make that mind-body connection that brings you back to the moment. Even better go and get a massage if you can!
  • Take an bath with Epson Salts.

Visualisations to make you feel grounded – (as always work with something that you can ‘see’ the most easily)

  • Visualise tree roots coming out of your feet and diving deep into the ground and tying around the earths core.
  • Visualise your spine extending from your body and down into the ground.
  • If you are used to working with your energy chakras then visualise each one ‘closing down’, especially the Crown chakra.
  • Use in conjunction with the energy protection and clearing exercises from posts one and two to have the best energy cleansing swoop.

Try some of these out and let me know how you go!

❤ A Summary

Consider these three posts as a great basis to start living in a way where you are considering your body and looking after your health. By being aware of your own energy system it means you have begun to check in and start hearing your body. I believe that our bodies will tell us everything we need to know if we listen.

Start making note of your physical symptoms and relating them to your emotional experiences, you will start to connect for instance times when you are under stress at work to your energy feeling different. When you have made these connections then using the exercises to protect, clear and ground yourself will make so much sense and just become part of your day to day routine.

I have been using these exercises for the past 14 years, everyday and now they are just as normal to me as getting dressed.

NEW Energy Awareness Workshop!

This is such an important and enjoyable subject for me to speak about and I have now started running a 90 minute workshop. The workshop can be taken as part of a group or one on one.

FIND OUT MORE

PLEASE NOTE – This post is part of a series

Part 1 – How to protect your energy
Part 2 – How to clean and clear your energy
Part 3 – How to ground your energy
Part 4 – Our lives online and a scattering of self
Part 5 – The energy of your words and the importance of a gratitude practice
Part 6 – How to look after your energy while travelling

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