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ENERGY – Part 3 – Grounding

I know I’m putting this as part three (please also read one and two in conjunction with this) but It’s probably the most important thing to practice once you are aware of your energy and have become accustomed to protecting it and maybe also noticing when you haven’t?

I also want to say that all of these energy posts are very beneficial even from a totally non spiritual perspective, energy is what we are made of, so just remember that even just the mood of another person is enough to change your mood. It’s all part of considering ourselves holistically and doing our best to look after our health.

Ok so what does being ‘grounded’ mean?

When we are fully grounded we are totally in the present moment, it means we are connected to our feelings and our bodies. We feel focused and energised. Grounding is feeling connected to the earth element, so the feeling of being literally ‘on the ground’.

To illustrate this It might be easier to give some examples of what feeling ‘ungrounded’ could be like.

How might I feel if I am ungrounded?

  •  Dizzy
  • Feeling a little ‘up in the air’ and not quite ‘with it’
  • Feeling very tired and scattered and emotional.
  • Feeling very thought orientated and having a head full of stresses and worries.
  • A general feeling of being a little disconnected.

NB: Yes, all of the above can be associated with other illnesses physical and mental so please if you are for instance dizzy after a head injury go and see your doctor.

How and why could I be ungrounded?

When we are totally in balance we should feel well. Any small thing emotionally, mentally, physically, spiritually could cause us to go slightly out of balance and feel not our very best. I know the exact feeling of not being grounded so am very aware of it. As you become more familiar with your energy and living in a holistic way then you will really know when your mood or ill ease is because of your energy.

Things that can leave us feeling ungrounded -

  • Being in any environment where we are amongst a lot of other people can leave us feeling ungrounded. A stressful day at the office and traveling on a packed train is a perfect example. This is from taking on a lot of other peoples energies and the exercises here will help you prevent this. This is even more significant if you are working along side very negative people or if you are in conflict with someone around you.
  • Spending too much time over thinking, obsessing (gasp, controlling!) – If being grounded is about being ‘earthy’ then when we are using a lot of mental energy we are in the ‘air’ element, up in the sky with our thoughts. We always need a perfect balance so too much air then we might be not as connected to our earth element as we should be.
  • The weather – I personally feel that I am very affected by the change in weather, when it is thundery I get headaches and more recently I’ve noticed with the strange muggy and rainy ‘Summer’ in London I have been feeling very ungrounded, maybe my head is literally in those rainclouds. I think we all understand that the weather has an effect on our moods, the energy of the sunshine can make us feel giddy and positive, so it makes sense that different patterns in the climate can have an influence on us also.
  • Stress and anxiety – As someone who suffered extreme panic attacks and anxiety in the past I would say that when you are feeling anxious or in the throws of a panic attack then you are extremely ungrounded, again because your balance is off, and you are very much focused on the situation itself, so of course not feeling well.
  • Spiritual and Psychic work – Any type of work where we are connecting to spirit or even when we are just meditating it requires us to ground ourselves before and after. This is an important practice so we are always equally connected to the earth and the ether.
  • Working as a therapist – When you work as a therapist of any sort you spend your days helping people with their illnesses and problems. It is very important as a therapist to look after your energy and clear it after each client. This was even taught as an important thing to do when I was training as a Massage Therapist. It is very common to feel completely drained after a day of working with clients, but with using all these techniques you should be on top of it.

Black Tourmaline that I carry in my pocket when I feel the need for extra grounding.

❤ The exercises

Physical exercises to help you feel grounded.

  • Exercise. Going to the gym or for a run is great for grounding, physical exercise in general is very earth oriented. I’ve been frequenting the gym in the early morning recently and it’s definitely making me feel more connected. Yoga will also be positive as a grounding exercise and energy exercises are often taught in class. Any exercise will pull you back down into yourself so get creative!.. and of course the health benefits are huge.
  • Stamping your feet on the ground, simple, stomp stomp.
  • Spending time outside and in nature. Taking a walk in the park or doing some gardening, both are very ‘earthy’ activities.
  • Holding a crystal that is good for grounding. Smoky Quartz or Black Tourmaline are good examples. I often carry one in my pocket if I feel a little light headed.

Visualisations to make you feel grounded -
(as always work with something that you can ‘see’ the most easily)

  • Visualise tree roots coming out of your feet and diving deep into the ground and tying around the earths core.
  • Visualise your spine extending from your body and down into the ground.
  • If you are used to working with your energy chakras then visualise each one ‘closing down’, especially the Crown chakra.

Try some of these out and let me know how you go!

A Summary

Consider these three posts as a great basis to start living in a way where you are considering your body and looking after your health. By being aware of your own energy system it means you have begun to check in and start hearing your body. I believe that our bodies will tell us everything we need to know if we listen.

Start making note of your physical symptoms and relating them to your emotional experiences, you will start to connect for instance times when you are under stress at work to your energy feeling different. When you have made these connections then using the exercises to protect, clear and ground yourself will make so much sense and just become part of your day to day routine.

I have been using these exercises for the past 12 years, everyday and now they are just as normal to me as getting dressed.

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Surrender and allow flow to return to your life.

I want to share with you some thought practices I have been working on for the past week. I have felt such a huge positive response in myself that I’ve been dying to pass it on. This is by no means a new discovery but I feel that everything we learn and take in has to be practiced so it becomes our own truth, as opposed to someone else’s.

The practice is – SURRENDER

I believe the Universe looks after us, we have a path on which we are meant to follow, sometimes we go on and off it but there is a life purpose for everyone.

This is of course is dependent on if we allow this to happen, if we accept a sense of flow into our lives and be open to being guided. To allow the Universe to take the steering wheel we have to trust this to be true which can be the challenge for a lot of us. I believe fully in all of the above and totally trust the Universe has my back but I still struggle often to completely relinquish control.

Control

This is the challenge word, and our challenge – to ‘let go’, we hear it and see it everywhere. We tell ourselves or people tell us a number of things such as – ‘Let go of things’, ‘Let go of control’, ‘Stop obsessing’, ‘Don’t think about that’ and so on. It sounds so easy, hey sure let’s just let go, woo, great! but doesn’t the idea of ‘letting go of control’ associate with the opposite which would be being ‘out of control’ which sounds so negative to me, the idea of being out of control, like we have no power over our lives at all, or that we are making ‘crazy’ choices, woah ‘she’s so out of control!’

It’s not like that.

When I think of letting go to the Universe it is like making a pact with my higher self that I will be open to being guided and take opportunities that are given to me, say yes more often, be forgiving and forgive myself, it’s working WITH the Universe to agree to follow my path and enjoy the life I deserve.

So a a few weeks ago a great girlfriend of mine was in town and we were catching up on all things life, work, love. She felt she had a few things to overcome to do with past relationships and her attitude towards love. I decided that we would take the Sunday to work on making shifts in this area. I ended up conducting us in a six hour session focusing on letting go, un attaching energy from other people, and ultimately manifesting what we would like from now on. For each experience we wrote notes, talked and also picked affirmation/guidance cards from some of my decks.

On the final exercise, the one we did for me, the first card I picked up about the situation I wanted to move on from just said quite simply ‘Surrender’

Immediately I knew this was the word for me, this was the word to replace control. I’d of course heard it before, read about the surrendering a million times but it hadn’t resonated with me so strongly until this moment and suddenly seemed so simple.

So a week later I started to put this word into daily practice in a number of ways and found an instant shift in many of my thought processes.

Why controlling thoughts stop us from moving forward -

If we are in our own ‘flow’ and are listening to our intuition, life moves freely, we have less obstacles and our minds are clearer.

When we spend our time trying to control everything in our life it creates a blockage, we become static in our journey, we restrict our own flow!

Just writing that down rings so true to me, I can think of so many times where I have put so much energy into trying to control aspects of my life and the outcomes have never been what I ‘wanted’ or the experience even been at all positive.

Some examples of how we use controlling thoughts  negatively in our lives -

  • In relationships - How many times have you been having a ‘conversation’ in your head (hello ego mind!) with your friend / partner / current crush / person you haven’t even met yet and you are constructing the situation, what you might say, what they might say back, what might be the outcome and so forth. This is a great example of trying to control relationships and can take up SO much time and energy. When and if this conversation actually happens it’s never as we ‘planned’ anyway, the time we have put into these thoughts was completely pointless.
  • Within the ‘what if’ situations - I have written about the ‘what if’ concept before in my post about procrastination. It can also become a controlling thought pattern, we think about a situation, perhaps at work and we start to get anxieties about it and a million ‘what if’s’ suddenly appear and one by one we begin to try and form a type of control for the situation.
  • With our health - It’s a huge subject but the development of eating disorders (a post I am working on) can be largely down to control, because food is something we can control, it can’t talk back to us, we can always decide what we eat or don’t eat. Surrendering to my health and eating habits has been the most positive thing I have done in years and completely rid me of an eating disorder. I decided that instead of trying to control my weight I was going to instead CHOOSE my health. I used food as a thing to control when I felt like I was ‘out of control’ in other areas of my life and it only had negative consequences.
  • In Love - Spending time obsessing over people who aren’t currently in our lives, obsessing over past lovers, putting restrictions on our idea of love, all of these restrict our ability and flow to let love into our lives. We become blinded by our controlling thoughts and then are unable to see wonderful people and opportunities around us.

There are so many more examples, we are open to trying to inflict negative control patterns in ALL aspects of our lives. I’m sure you can think of ways in which you do it? We even use controlling thoughts to be negative about ourselves which restricts our confidence in achieving our dreams.

So, why Surrender? -

When I say ‘I surrender’ my intent is that I am surrendering my anxieties, ego thoughts, obsessions, problems to the Universe, I am surrendering TO the thought and telling it that I am just not interested. I am trusting that there is a flow to my life and that by surrendering my control over things I am making way for positive change and opportunities. I am stepping back onto my path and not trying to force things into my life.

Surrendering frees me from the negative patterns that my ego mind creates.

(NOTE on manifesting and visualisation – I have to mention visualising and manifesting here (a practice I fully believe in) The art of manifesting is that we decide what we want and we acknowledge it and then we release it (let it go!) into the Universe and into our energy, ALLOWING it to be.
Manifesting isn’t us deciding what we want, acknowledging it and then OBSESSING over it and trying to coerce it into being.)

The practice of ‘Surrendering’ -

I am currently using the word in two ways to help me and these are the ideas that I would love you to try.

  • As a simple mantra – I feel that a quick way to stop a negative or obsessive control pattern is to just simple say (aloud or in your thoughts) ‘I surrender’. By saying the words it is creating a simple shift in your thought pattern and allowing you to let go of the obsession and allow the situation to heal in it’s natural flow. I have been using this for the past week and it has completely changed my way of thinking.
  • As part of an affirmation about a situation - Staring the affirmation with ‘I surrender’ apply it to some of your challenges. Create an affirmation that rings true to you, and is purely positive. State the affirmation as if it is already true.

Some affirmations using Surrender - 

“I surrender this situation to the Universe and trust that I will be guided”
“I surrender my obsessive thoughts about X”
“I surrender my anxieties about relationships and allow love to come into my life”
“I surrender my fears and allow success into my endeavors”
“I surrender my day to the Universe”
“I surrender all negative thoughts about myself”
“I surrender to the flow of the Universe”
“I surrender to my fears and allow love to guide me”
“I surrender my resistance to move forwards”
“I surrender with confidence to my life’s path”
“To allow, I surrender”
“I surrender to sleep and am totally relaxed”
“I surrender my need for approval and I accept myself”
“I surrender to my creative flow”

Please let me know any experiences you have with surrendering, your experience with these exercises and of course any affirmations that you can pass on.

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